In the movie "Taare Zameen Par", the art teacher tells the rude & cursing father of the dyslexic kid about "Solomon Islands", where the tribals don�t cut down a tree. They surround the tree & curse it for hours every day. Within a few weeks, the tree dries up & dies.
Difficult to believe? �How can intangible, invisible thoughts & words kill a tree?
If you read Bruce H. Lipton�s THE BIOLOGY OF BELIEF, you will think a dozen times before saying something demoralizing to yourself or to the people you love.
In this book, Mr. Lipton details the power of conscious & subconscious mind.
The subconscious mind is million times more powerful than the conscious mind & decides most of the things in our lives according to the beliefs it has.
Many times we fail to change an unpleasant habit despite our will-power & conscious efforts. It is because the habit gets so strongly programmed in our subconscious mind that the efforts made by our conscious mind hardly make any difference.
Conscious Mind is just a shadow of our Unconscious Mind..
So, when the tribals of Solomon Islands curse a tree, they are actually installing negative & harmful beliefs in the tree�s emotion (yes, trees have emotions).
Within few days, those negative emotions becomes a belief & eventually changes the molecular architecture of the tree & kill it from inside..
2500 years ago, when Buddha said �You are what you think', actually he was telling a scientific fact which is now proved correct by Quantum Physics & Molecular Biology.
The book has a special chapter on Conscious Parenting where it talks about the beneficial & harmful effects of what parents say to their children..
If you are a parent and you keep cursing your child in the name of constructive criticism, you are installing beliefs in their mind which will keep harming them forever..
But if you keep appreciating them sincerely, you are installing beliefs in their mind which will help them in their entire life..*
Also be careful of what you keep saying to yourself.
Repetition of words & thoughts is the best way to install a belief in your subconscious mind.
If you keep saying you are a loser, don�t be surprised if you become a loser within a few months or years.
If your friends keep saying such things to you, there is no harm in saying a quick goodbye to them.
May be you value their friendship a lot. But you must value yourself more than such friendship.
Accept all people as they are. Love all people unconditionally ( later Hinduism adapted it as vasudeva kutumbakam).
Always keep saying to yourself I am healthy, wealthy, happy, successful & prosperous!
Be positive.